I'm no expert but... This works! 4 years since BD

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sounds like you know what you need to do. That is good news!

I'll read up on your sitch so I'm better able to understand what you are in.

It is a turbulent ride and nothing she says or does will make any sense to you. Later on it won't make sense to her either. But right now she probably thinks she knows what she wants and its as clear as day.

She will cycle through being sure its right and being not so sure its right.

If you do your part and take care of your end of the issues that caused the death of your marriage, then every time she isn't so sure she will look back at you to try to re validate how correct her decision to leave is.

You can make her doubt her decisions during those times, she will get mad and exhibit some anger at your changes, and she will distance more. Thats what folks here call the "touch and go".

Its all part of the ride. Get strapped in and comfortable. It could be a long one...