Firstly, order the books NOW. No one can offer you advice if they also need to explain to you the concepts.

Secondly, I strongly recommend that you take Christy's advice and call for some telephone coaching. I'd say your situation is promising but what you do now will be the difference between a happy family and a certain divorce. Get professional help alongside the help from these good folks who are super knowledgeable.

Me, H-34 now 38
W-32 now 35
T-13 now 18 years
M-6 now 9
Daughter 3 years now 7
Bomb 11/27/12 - OM
1 year in house separation
Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017