Have you read sandi's rules? It's time to follow them. Stop having R talks, you're only pushing her away.
I'd also read the validation cheat sheet. This reads of a lot of saying you are listening and understanding, but not validating her feelings. She says "you never loved me" and your response is "yes I did"....that's INvalidating.
When I'm invalidating her feelings about love when I say I love her, what would I say? " I'm sorry you feel that way, can you help me to understand more?"
I don't bring up R talks. She does. I try to avoid it. I know it just makes her upset and I don't want that.
