A stronger me for whatever the future holds

[PacLove]

Hey FG,

Perhaps it came off the wrong way a bit... the forum definitely focuses on self-improvement which if I had not done, I would have never been where I am today to actually be ready for reconciliation. I know 3 months ago I wasn't ready, heck a month ago I probably wasn't - are we ever? I do know I'm in a much better state today then I was at initial BD.

What I meant by Paths - is now that we are ready to take the R forward - how to approach it? how slow do we go? thoughts? ideas? What boundaries do we maintain and which ones do we slowly let go off. When is it ok to initiate txt's again, hugs, etc. When to talk about the A? When to move back in?

Here's been my approach so far... granted today is only 1 week since the R talk:

- still letting her initiate most contacts, but I have on occasion (2-3 times in the last week)
- she was the first one to hug me last weekend, I initiated one after therapy
- When we call each other to say goodnight to D, we ask each other how our day is and talk for a minute or two
- yesterday we had an extended IM conversation - felt weird though would have much rather talked to her on the phone.
- no talk of moving, or A yet although she seems open to talking about it
- we agreed to have a date next week
- she also said she wont be ready for physical intimacy for a long while to which I said that's fine

I'm sort of approaching this like a new relationship - where we need to date an rekindle the spark - we both acknowledge at some point we need to deal with the baggage but that seems like such a love buster right now.