My WW and the Great Sandi2 Experiment

[bigybiz]

I can not agree more on the text/calls, etc. Go dark. Unless it's an emergency or close to it. Otherwise, make every decision on your own.

We are here for you if you want to chit chat about the day or share something that happened, talk to us.

One great nugget I got from Sandi2 was "You are not her secretary". I don't remind her of appt's etc. We've used a calendar in the kitchen. I tell her to check the calendar for updates. She squawks and complains, I tell her that this family has used this system for 15+ years. If you don't like you can recommend and implement a new system and why should she get special treatment.

Also, I say don't email me with updates, etc - I tell her to put it on the calendar. I'm not your secretary.

Any documents that come home, I put it in a binder and it's there for her. I'm not her secretary.

If she send me a text and it's worth a prompt response. I phone - as Paclove said it removes the anxiety, expectations, etc. If I speak to her great, if not I leave a message saying responding to your message call me back.

Wait for her to bring issues etc to you. It's very hard - but it will pay off. It's taken me months but, I tell you she is getting the message and I'm feeling great.