Exactly What JRuss said. Textin is pursuit and pressure. And you expecting a reply is pressure on you. Stop it. Its needy and pushy and serves no purpose whatsoever.
You say you expect some common curtesy from her. Nix all expectatios, Every and each one. Expect nothing from her. Be selfsufficient. Do not rely on her for anything. Always plan around her. Do not get caught off guard. Your W IS NOT THE SAME PERSON YOU MARRIED. This person may be buried somewhere deep inside her. But it is layers and layers deep. There is no logic in treating her like your W when she clearly is not. But by now you figured it out by yourself. I am willing to bet that you still can't wrap your brain around the question who is this person inside your W's body.
I am 2 and half years post BD myself and I have noticed something. All our spouses follow pretty much the same script and none of the LBSs actually take prudent advice from the vets. My theory is that every one just has to experience every step before they realize the vets had it right from the get go. I try to offer advice to help and shave a couple of days of the journey, but mostly I fail at this. But is is OK, at least the LBS sees support is here and always alert.
Stay strong, try to be a little less needy and try to realize it is not you, it's her and NO, YOU CANNOT HELP HER and NO; SHE WILL NOT HEAR ANYTHING YOU SAY, you might as well be speaking Mandarin...
