Well done for standing your ground FG. I suspect she was playing on your need to do the right thing for your kids. At the end of the day whatever happens she is the one who is letting them down wanting a D so there is nothing else you can do to minimise the destruction.

I can imagine this has left her in a state of flux. After all you have shattered her fantasy!

Me - 47
H - 45
D-16
M - 6 years
Separated - May 16

Don't leave me behind can't you see me I'm shining... (Years & Years - 'Shine')