You aren't suppose to talk and spend time together. You are separated, remember?
Right, and I'm fine with that. She tries to engage sometimes but I don't say much. Most of our longer conversations are about the kids. I guess my point was that even though we are hardly in each other's lives these days, I still expect some common courtesy.
Chris, you should have no expectations for what your W does or how she reacts. You don't control anything she does and having those expectations only sets you up for disappointment. Scratch the expectations.
Only do things for you. Do things that you know to be right. Do things that will help you become a better man. Do things for your kids to shield them from this and be their rock.
MV can speak to how hard it's been for me to learn this lesson. Listen to him. He's been instrumental in helping me to move away from the nice guy stuff. If your motives are to show your W how good of a guy you are, then you're only hurting yourself. If your motives are to improve yourself and do the right things for the right reasons then you are winning.
All of this is tough, but I've no doubt you can do it. Hang in there brother.
Me39 M11 : T13 D9 BD 5/31/16 In House S until 6/21/17 Divorced 10/5/18
