However, I think you need to honestly ask yourself if you could effectively parent while your W was dating other people and living in your house while she does so. I know my ability to parent, to be present for them, to be a calm, stable force for them, would be compromised, and I wouldn't be able to give them the one benefit this arrangement might otherwise provide, because I'd be so preoccupied and stressed. And just flat out pissed at my W's selfishness. Could you do it?
This is how I'm feeling too. The overwhelming stress of my sitch has leaked on to my kids. I try my best to be present for them. But sometimes my emotions take over and I snap at them or I'm too strict. My W and I just had a conversation this morning about how my S8 is getting sloppy with his homework. I reminded her that she has barely been home over the past 6 weeks and our kids are no longer getting the attention of 2 full-time parents.
I think it's one thing to persevere through a suspected A even if it becomes not-so-secret after a while (my sitch), but full-out acceptance of dating after a divorce while she's still living at home? How can you heal or get closure in that situation?
M46 W48 M11 T14 S11 D8 BD: 2016/05/27 In-home separation: 2016/11/23 Nesting: 2017/06/11 W moves out: 2018/01/07 W goes public with OM: 2018/07/12 I ask for a divorce: 2018/12/14
