MLC W and preparing for S or D in the new year

[Gordie]

PatientMan--I have spent hours reading all of your threads from 2013 and 2014...are there more? I want to know what's happened since then. I have learned so much from your posts and while our situations are different, there are parallels:

*W gives a lot of mixed signals re loving me, wanting to continue to be BFFs, but still going full steam ahead for S or D
*W has expressed that it is possible for us to R in the future...but only after she is able to become more independent (like your XW, she says she went directly from her father's house to my house...unlike your XW, my W has a POM in mind)
*W has wanted to continue the physical, sexual R post-BD...and says she wants to continue it after S or D (was very appreciative of your candor on this subject; I was feeling like I was the only one in this boat)
*W comes to me in waves...closer, then backs off...closer, then backs off (also liked your sqirrel metaphor)
*Gordie is trying to detach...but clearly still very attached...I am still on her roller coaster...I still think about her and our situation all the time...I'm driving in my car, but still staring at her car, wondering what she's doing over there