MLC W and preparing for S or D in the new year

[Gordie]

Which additional things?

You can be a good man, a good father, and a good friend ... who is a castrated platonic friend.

A good mate is also a good sexual partner.

I think keeping some of that magic is at odds with the other three things. I'm not saying you can't be all. Just that if you focus too much on being a good friend, that can erode your sexual chemistry.

ForGump--Agree...have been working on the sexual chemistry. W complained sex for years has been boring, routine, not good/bad, so part of my post-BD, post-DB 180 has been to change that dynamic/her view. How? Increase non-sexual touching, increase emotional connection, and allow for sexual tension to build so much that she would initiate...since BD, sex has been a lot less frequent (twice a month), but it's been really, really passionate, a huge improvement...for me, this has been one of the things I wanted to change in the being a man only a fool would leave department...she has noted the improvement...