I recall an incident like that a long while back, raining hard and I had genuine concern. I quickly realised that sending texts like that just builds up anxiety as you are constantly waiting a response - so I learned quickly not to txt and then then you aren't anticipating a response.
She's making her own choices, and yes we still care and love them - but we can't control or protect them anymore - they are their own selves.
The in house arrangement you have sounds very much like what I had except my W would leave when I got home on her nights to sleep elsewhere. It wasn't healthy at all - you need physical separation.
Me: 40 W: 45 T: 13, M: 11 1 D: 9
Suspect A 6/15 ILBINILWY 8/15, and 3/16 EA/PA Discovered 3/16 EA admitted 3/16 W Moved out 4/16 W opens R talk and says A over 1/17