done my head in

[maly]

Yep,I've ordered them,just waiting for them to arrive,looking forward to reading,

[maly]

Hi my friend,can't do much keep fit stuff,has I have heart disease,but I'm getting on well with my family and friends,I'm there more for my children,they are hurting cos she is distancing from them,I do plenty of walking,I've got my self new cloths,keep my self tidy looking,got a couple of lady friends who are nice,only friends tho,I'm also trying to redecorate all the house,I've done 2 rooms,I'm feeling fairly good in my self,I will get there slowly but surely,I seem to be getting stronger each day but still have some down days,she broke my heart and hurt me purity bad,but I will recover,I've learned in my life when you get knocked down you must get back up,that's life,last thing to do is give up,I'm a fighter,

[maly]

The last time I spoke to my wife was in July the day I found out about the hotel affair,I did blow my top and told her what I fought of her I wasent nice,after all she was cake eating,and I saw all the lies she had been telling me,she called the police and I was told to leave,that was the last time we spoke,I've just stayed away from her since no contact at all,,am I doing the right thing staying away no contact in any way,I know the affair is still on going and think it must of been going on at least 3 months before I found out,

[maly]

I feel like RoboCop in the first movie I'm old and obsolete and she is looking for the younger improved ed209 version,in her eyes,lol

[Woke_Up]

That's a great post from Jack_Three_Beans, thanks for linking to it AP.

Some very wise words in there. I particularly like this:

"Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans"

[maly]

And my new hobby is being a better cook I'm learning how to cook better quality food and meals I'm enjoying that,it makes me feel good,but usually do to much and make a pig of my self and eat to much but not to often so its OK lol

[sandi2]

You said her mother had similar behavior. Was her mother ever diagnosed with bipolar? Did her mother get back to her normal self?

Was there something in your W's youth that was very difficult for her, maybe even life changing in some way? How old was she when her mother began her inappropriate behavior?

[maly]

Hi Sandi,no bipoler but that was over 30 years ago,
She had a lot of men and ended up with nothing,
Wife was 10 years old'
There was a big life changing issue with wife's farther in 2010 but can't say on here'
It damaged the whole family including me,

[Cadet]

Wife was 10 years old

I think what Sandi was getting at is sometimes in a MLC people go back in time mentally to an age when they had issues to try to resolve those issues and replay their lives forward from that point.

Childhood issues are at play.

[maly]

Hi cadet,yep that figures,she had it hard then took place of her mother and looked after 4 other siblings,but just wondered am I doing right,with total no contact since July,I've been there for her right up till then nearly 40 years,but in July I told her after I learned of the affair and cakeating your on your own now and I'm no longer your best friend,