Chris73--best wishes, what a great 2017 resolution! I was with my L yesterday discussing separation, so we are living parallel lives...
\ Thanks Gordie. And yet another thing I have to put energy into: finding a competent lawyer that I can afford. Some of these firms charge $100 just for the initial consult. Anyone have advice on this?
Still catching up (a lot to read!), but if you haven't already you should see an L to understand your options. I gained a lot of confidence and solace in understanding the process and getting a realistic view of how things might shake out. It may do a lot to help ground you. Knowledge is power. I put it off longer than I should have and I wish I'd done it sooner in my situation. Just a quick thought.
Originally Posted By: Chris73
My W even admitted to me once that she WANTED me to go ballistic when I found out about her A. She WANTED to see anger and acts of self-preservation.
Years ago, my W hinted this to me when we were in an argument. It was strange to hear at the time and I'd thought maybe I was misinterpreting things. When i found out about my WW i took the approach of discussing w/ her from a compassionate/rational place and she pretty much walked all over me. A month later her and I had a blow-up shouting match and I let out a lot of the anger that had been building up inside. I could tell she was goading me on and I extricated myself from the situation, but she did act markedly different towards me after that. Not saying you should go ballistic up on her, but don't let her steamroll you and make sure you stand up for what is right.
Me39 M11 : T13 D9 BD 5/31/16 In House S until 6/21/17 Divorced 10/5/18
