There are a lot of great resources here for when BD occurs, detach, stop pursuing, Sandi's rules etc... but I'm struggling to find much on how to handle the situation similar to mine when the W is slowly re-emerging and wanting to work on the R.

I'm guarded and hesitant to jump back in to quickly but at the same time don't want to have barriers in place that will be potential love busters.

Tips from those that have reconciled? (other than being careful and guarded)

Me: 40 W: 45
T: 13, M: 11
1 D: 9

Suspect A 6/15
ILBINILWY 8/15, and 3/16
EA/PA Discovered 3/16
EA admitted 3/16
W Moved out 4/16
W opens R talk and says A over 1/17