You are an incredibly intelligent accountable person, and I really respect that. Looking to what you know cognitively and trying to make that happen is the toughest part.
I was much like you. Angry and focused on the injustice of it all. But there was absolutely nothing that was going to undo what was done, so I was faced with choices. Move on or stay stuck.
How to implement it? I personally go back to what makes me happy. What I enjoy doing. What makes my life worth it? My situation is what it is. But What made makes me feel good and is what I focus on and do. I look to improve the situation I am in rather than looking to obtain a situation that isn't in my grasp.
I enjoy exercise, I enjoy spending time with my friends, I enjoy cooking, I enjoy hanging out with my daughter. I like to shop (although I kind of have to halt this one), I like trying new things and visiting places with my friends. When I get angry or down, I shift my focus on to what I enjoy. And just do it.
