Having her pull her weight is about her knowing what life would be like if you weren't there doing everything for her. She may not show interest, but I am not interested in my housework either, lol. It's got to get done because I am the only one who can do it. I would love for someone to drive me to work and the store, but I am the only one to do that.
What does she feel like she dependent on you for?
From observing her and listening to things she has told me over time I believe she sees the solution as making her own money. That might end up not working for her perhaps but she definitely sees that as her path right now. When we were talking about her independence needs once I pointed out that making money wasn't the only way to be fulfilled, that many people who did not make money were still very accomplished and she shrugged it off.
She just recently made some money from a gallery show and she squirreled it away in the house in case. She doesn't even seem to have a plan to spend it on anything. seems like it's making her feel good just to have it. I figure that won't save her long term but she definitely sees it as a good think for her right now.
