You've said before that if you were to die in a car crash, your W would be very capable of supporting/running the family.
If she's so capable... why is she not pulling her weight now?
I know my wife feels the need to accomplish some independence. However, I think you might be underestimating her contribution. She takes good care of the kids while I am gone and she does the laundry and some occasional housecleaning. She also works hard at producing art and promoting herself. This was never the part of our life that I had a problem with.
The problem is our loss of connection and her fantasies about OM.
I can't force her to drive or cook. She shows no interest in these things. I doubt that it would help her independence needs even if she did them.
So on one hand I agree with you. She feels like she is dependent on me and it's not a good feeling for her. On the other hand, more housework won't change that. It will probably just make her feel more trapped as it cuts into her moneymaking time.
I am not now, nor have I ever, blocked her from household contribution. I can tell by the way she talks that she knows that she is on the low end but she also thinks that her household contribution is adequate if only barely.
I don't think my path back to a loving wife lies through housework.
