My WW and the Great Sandi2 Experiment

[Chris73]

Got home late, but to my delight my son was still awake and I got to talk with him for a few minutes. He's such a cool kid. And this is the part that kills me. My parents divorced when I was his age. And I definitely have some issues that still need working through because of it. I never wanted that for him. And my W and I always swore to each other that we would never let it happen. Of course now she's changed her tune, emphasizing the idea that "kids are resilient, they'll adapt." Quite a convenient point of view considering her behavior lately.

Anyway, I've been trying to get my head around how to behave when you're "going dark," which is what Sandi2 suggests when there is an A going on. When I see my W for the first time in the morning or when I get home, I say Hi and she says Hi. I think not saying Hi is rude. We also say Goodnight to each other. I'm sure I'm overthinking but it seems like the devil is in the details. Of course I'm not going to ask her how her day was. Of course I'm not going to kiss her. But "hello" and "goodnight" seem courteous to me. I'm not trying to be rude.

Thoughts...?