A stronger me for whatever the future holds

[PacLove]

PM - Definitely appreciate the posts, I was simply commenting no the fact I've accepted the A which is sort of my way of detaching. I'm not overly familiar with you sich so please forgive me.

I think a big barrier for many people to reconcile or at least pave the way to reconciliation is that the betrayed has a tough time getting past the A. I know first hand from friends of mine that got D due to this, the W could never accept that it happened and held it against him.

Yes it perhaps is convenient that I'm there for her, but at the same time she has woken up and that's generally the described behavior of a WW in the forums here. I have prayed and hoped for this for the last 1 year and she's finally initiating wanting to work on the R. I know baby steps, patience and don't let my guard down.

I'm still also trying to remember and maintain all the hard work I've put in this past year.

I feel sometimes this forum focuses too much on fixing ourselves, and not enough on what paths can be taken to actually "bust the divorce" and reconcile with your spouse - as opposed to preparing for the next relationship.

As for your advice on dating, I wholeheartedly agree - as I did try dating for a bit and not only does it pollute and complicate things it also zaps away your energy from working on yourself... I really regret it now even though it was short lived.