Right now, if your goal is to save your M, you should not be talking to her about the issues YOU have with HER. That will only push her further away. You can deal with all of that in the future when things turn around but now is not the time to bring that stuff up.
Me: 48 y/o W: 47 y/o Together: > 20 yrs BD: Dec '15, then S 2nd BD: Mar '16, then I filed for D April '16: started piecing
