She moved out...now the work begins...Part 4

[SBJ]

Thanks AP...I guess that is my problem. We as husbands promised to never "abandon" our wives, but when that person wants out what do we do. She is so sure of this D that it makes me crazy. She even says to me..."you will see one day that this is for the best". Even though I know it is just her MLC way of trying to convince me, it makes me crazy.

MLC isn't supposed to make sense, but come on man. She isn't trying to be mean or cruel (at least I don't think so), but I guess because I am adamantly against D every time we discuss it it totally drives me nuts.

A counselor friend of mine told me a story of a couple that she was counseling thru the husbands affair. They were going along for a long time and the wife kept telling the counselor that she forgives the husband for the affair, but wasn't ready to tell him yet. The counselor asked how long the wife would draw it out and the wife replied..."When I feel he has suffered enough". I know that they, the MLC'er, puts alot of blame onto the LBS and I wonder if they do what they do to make us hurt or feel some of what they are going thru.