Another WW

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Well I finally had a conversation with the WW. Wasn't always calm and collective, so I didn't really do myself any favors. I forgot to validate her feelings, but don't think it matters. She said she doesn't like me anymore, I don't talk to her or support her and we are finished. I then said things like she was selfish and she never tried to save this marriage for us or the kids and if she can live with that let's move forward. She tried to validate her affair saying our marriage was over before the affair happened. I tried to turn it to her and tell her to make a plan and see what she wants to do since she doesn't have a job and we cannot afford to keep our life style. Of course she doesn't have one but after talking said we would move out and leave the kids in their home and swap weeks until she gets a job and can afford to move out.
I am ok with this, cause she isn't really present here when she is physically here anyway. She says she can't be around me so that's why she always hides out. I just am sick though thinking of telling the kids. I feel like I have failed them. And even though I hate my WW, I still love her and still dream of the idea of trying to work things out. I am starting to feel like the crazy one around here.
I feel like I am ok with leaving her, I just am not over the loss of a family and never having those together moments together, and missed opportunities with the kids in the future.