Cheated and need advice

[Steady9]

I have been very respectful, kind and calm with my W. I have asked a lot of questions and got poor answers.

I have feelings of wow-what did you think would happen and what did you think I would feel like..... but have feelings of fear and did my best to not raise my voice etc....

I feel you H should do something similar but from my reading and my friends -- most would be angry and yell etc.

If you can continue to say you are sorry and say I love you .... but expect fear but not accept disrespect... that would be best IMO.

Simply say I love you and I am sorry and walk away maybe.... I do not have good advice here. Kindness and respect. Even though the A is horrible.