2017 - New year - same MLC but I'm moving along

[Irish M]

Your daughters are very strong young ladies and they aren't going to allow her to manipulate them into thinking that they need to be the ones reaching out to her.

2017 will be an interesting year for many. I do hope that the peace and quiet continue for you and your daughters...but I don't think your xw is going to let things be for any length of time. I pray that she steps way back and starts working on herself...but time will tell.

Hi Job :-) Happy New Year.
Yes I am very thankful my girls are not playing into her game. XW needs to figure this out alone. I will not be the one to guide her. It must come from her heart.

I pray she does. It will be 2 of the most important time of the girls lives as teens that she missed. They have changed so much into strong independent woman. I couldn't be prouder of them.

If she does reach out it better be what the girls expect and not what XW dictates.

Irish - as a mother myself, I just cringe for your XW. It's remarkable to see the iciness all via the safety of texting.

Hi HaWho, happy new year to you as well.
Yes my XW does hide behind her texts and emails. Since Aug 2015 sh has not once showed her face at the house to see the girls. If it was me. I'd be camping outside on the front lawn. It is sad they can't face the reality of what they have done and do something about it. And i'm not talking about my relationship with XW, only the one between a mother and her children.

your girls are amazing mon ami ... and your xw is sadly clueless.

Bonne annee Bttrfly :-) I see you are practicing your francais. C'est bien.
Clueless is too nice.. she is completely LOST. This year she will find it harder since I am no longer feeding her any information about them. She can figure it out.

I think The MLC justifies they actions
In her message to the girls, she is still believing her own lies and justifications by putting the blame on them for "not Forgiving her"
I often saw my MLC XH lie about so much while we still had contact years back and wondered how do they do it- and live with themselves
I think it is part of their very strong denial system
unfortunately denial keeps one living in addiction
and no one can break the denial until they see it if ever

Hi Peace, Happy New Year.
yes XW does believe her lies. She did nothing wrong and the teen daughters have just escalated their anger against XW for leaving the family and me. Prayer is all we can do for her.

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I was watching tv last night and searching through some old TV shows I use to watch with XW. In our favorites was Shameless and Sons of Anarchy. It hit me. A major flash back to before BD.

XW was fascinated with the rough life. Drugs, bikers, tattoos, open sex, no responsibilities etc etc. I recall her so involved with these shows, she could go through 2 seasons in a weekend.

Her initial EA over the internet was with bikers, rough guys, guys with no goals in life and dead beats. She later told me she chose them because they lived in the states or mexico. She couldn't really sleep with them so it was harmless. lol. Until she met toothless OM who lived in the next city over.

It's weird to have that kind of flash back, and over a year and a half later. Maybe its my mind reminding me... you see its MLC. So I will Stop thinking this is who she is and has become. To remind me that Shes completely irrational, illogical and lost in lala land.

I guess I was starting to accept that she is like this and I'm better off.

Hope you are all having a great start to the New Year.