I filed - Anxious to get it over

[fightin]

Update:
Spoke to STBXW via text. I had mailed her a check for my part of the car insurance. I'm finishing out this period and then getting on my own insurance. She text me to let me know that she received it. I then asked her to email me a copy as I don't remember the login. She emailed me 12/31 and mentioned she had been spending the last 6 hours putting Legos together with SS. I replied back today, 1/3, that was a lot of Lego time, but I'm sure they had fun and thanked her again for sending the copy of the insurance.

She then replied with more about the Legos and SS and then said something about that's probably more than I want to know and even though I have asked her not to ask me how I'm doing she hopes that I'm doing well.

I took the bait. Partly because since we never talk or see each other I do want her to know that I'm doing well and partly I was hoping if I told her I'm doing well then it would give her whatever peace of mind she's looking for from saying that and then be happy with it and stop saying it. Also though, I am at a pretty good place and I wanted to tell her thank you for what she did to me because it pushed me to grow and this is actually been the most liberating experience of my life. I also told her that I always love hearing about SS because he's amazing and I love him.

She again replied that yes he's amazing he loves me too. Clearly a different tune from trying to keep me away from him and telling him he doesn't need to love me anymore.
She also said that she's "super happy to know you are doing well and at a good place and found peace within, you are an amazing woman and I only want the best for you and I’m genuinely so proud of you for putting yourself first for a change and doing what is best for you and finding that peace." and she doesn't regret any of our time together only the way it ended and how she'll always hate herself a little for that. How she will always cherish how much fun we had together and that no one can take those memories from us. She said she's "doing good" and just happy that I'm talking to her. She added a few smiley faces and said she knows that asking me to talk to her is a lot to ask and how she has no right to ask anything of me, but does enjoy hearing that I'm doing well.

I did not reply to the last email. For one, I have a sneaking suspicion that if I do she will continue to try to be my "friend" and if things go south with OW she will try to weasel her way back into my life and honestly that is no longer what I want or need. Two, I'm not here to ease her guilt or be her friend.