Wow what a change! But thought I'd share the good news for those out there in limbo land.
W opened up the R discussion this week asking what should we do... I'll spare most of the details out of respect for her, but the A is apparently over, she showed genuine remorse and honesty about what's been going on. The way she talked about the A is so textbook, it had run it's course, he wanted more she wasn't willing to, caught up in the excitement etc.
We are both not sure what is next, but the good news is we are "talking". I had actually came to the conclusion of either outcome about a month ago and was looking to move on..
We have a long road ahead whichever path we take. One comment I will share though - healthy boundaries are important but be careful they don't come off as being bitter. Two things she shared with me that hurt her the most in the past year were a feeling I was being bitter and a feeling of not being safe due to my snooping - that is apparently what drove her to move out and what scares her most about coming back.
Believe none of what they say and only half of what they do, right? I am not saying your comments are wrong, but I find it *convenient* that:
1) Her A is over and all of a sudden she is willing to work with you. It sounds like she may have an emotional void that needs filled and you are more than willing to jump to the rescue.
2) SHE cheated, yet isn't comfortable with YOU??? Don't forget who committed adultery here. I'm definitely not advising you to hold her affair against her, only that you don't allow yourself to be manipulated by a distorted, revisionist history.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
