WH sat down this afternoon and said he will be going to a lawyer and filing for divorce. He said he doesn't want to stay in a marriage where he argues everyday and is miserable. I validated and said he could do whatever he wants, I cannot stop him. WH then said he would probably need to live with me and the kids until the divorce was complete, I told him that was fine. I calmly went over some figures with regards to child support and then helped DD6 with her homework.
WH had gone back to his office and was playing video games. I told him I was going for a drive and then left for 2 hours.
I am in a bad way right now. I do not want a divorce but I am hitting a wall here. WH has turned into a monster and if he decides to drop the axe I will seek sole physical custody of the kids, I don't trust him to be consistent with them. Putting space between us simply escalated him to go for divorce. I even purchased an E-book by another author who also says he has the formula for saving marriages when they've been broken. Turns out he is just regurgitating DBing techniques. I really want to just curl up and disappear right now.
This is tough stuff, and you are doing great! Keep it up!
Remember, you can only control yourself...your actions and reactions. Others can be bat-turd-crazy and completely irrational, but that isn't your responsibility. Just take care of your side of the street.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
