I'm here so I don't get fined.

[trumpet]

Don,

Thanks for the smack into reality. Things are... strange. Sounds like she wants to date me now, but there's another guy in the picture, and she won't talk to me for a while - as she 'dumps' the guy.

I'm realizing she's carrying baggage from her previous divorce. Bags are bigger than she let on.

So, while I'm in a 'no communication' phase with her, at least for the last couple days, it's becoming apparent I'm not completely healed. I don't think about the EX-WW, but the red flag of rebound is flashing now. I'll spend some time with her, but I think it's for the best to maybe just try to keep things more casual.

Thanks for the 2 X 4. Hope your gig went well!

[Vanilla]

Trumpet

Limmerance is fine in my book and to be enjoyed.

Just don't fall in lurve.

You know limmerance isn't love but lurve don't you?


One doesn't go long term on lurve or limmerance.

It's dating not marriage, enjoy it.

Heck go out have limmerance for lots of blondes with blue eyes and brunettes with brown ones.

Limmerance can be innocent stuff. The high of it won't last you know.

Relax.

V

[trumpet]

My update is... meh.

New girl decided I needed more time to heal - so not dumped, but put out to pasture to 'age'.

I had a week of radio silence, then she emails and says she wants to be 'friends', but wants more, but can't. I think she's scared, but has been through this rodeo before being divorced, and engaged and called it off. I see her apprehension.

Signed up for divorcecare from Feb-May. Excited to go.
Gonna make the next 4-5 months about healing and focusing on myself and God.
Did a cleanse, and lost some weight. Doing 2.5-3 miles of running every day. Feels good.

New girl (woman) out of the blue and emails me on Friday. Complete mix-signal email. Probably misses me, but reinforces she doesn't want to hurt me and doesn't want to get burned by the recently divorced Trumpet. I soldier on. Told her she could let me know when she wants to talk.

I feel good about life right now. Not looking to start a relationship with anyone (except if new girl makes a move).

[Sotto]

So she's been passionately kissing you while there is some other guy in the mix too? Huge red flag..I think you are seeing in her what you would like to see.

You have come a long way but are still recently divorced and maybe feeling a bit raw. I would pull way back and focus on you as you've wisely said..

Good luck with everything 😊