I think that's good advice from LiM. My piece of advice would be - don't ever do anything (ie: tell her you are seeing a L) to get a reaction or try to 'snap' her out of the funk. Only do these things because they work for you, feel right for you, and so on.
I would agree you should see a L. And I wouldn't let her know you have seen one until/unless you want to move forward with something. At that point you can say to her - we need to draw up a S. Agreement. I'm using X lawyer and here are their details...
If you aren't ready to go for a formal agreement (I left that far longer than was sensible and suffered financially for a couple of years as a result) at least keep a close eye on financials to make sure spending stays sensible.
I'm glad you are seeing a counsellor. I think the holiday period is tough, and that may well be why you have been feeling so low. It's a new year now and a fresh start, so do begin making plans to improve your wellbeing and actively GAL for yourself.
Brighter days are around the corner I promise...
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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
