WW asks for divorce, what now?

[LiM]

Jrnymn,

Sorry you are here J. Your W is clearly DEEP in the fog. You say you've read the book so you know what you need to do. Detach, deploy the LRT and Go dark. Turn all of your attention inward and work on brining that confident man back to life. There is nothing you can do to force her back. She's got to hit rock bottom and it sounds like she isn't even close to that. So let her go down that path she has made for herself. Its hard to watch her go but the sooner you let her go, the sooner you can find yourself again. However, finding that man again and allowing her freedom to wallow in the mess she is creating is exactly what needs to happen in order to save your M. The W you knew is gone. She is not herself now. Work on yourself until she comes back. Be an awesome dad for those kids because they've already lost their mom. Dont let them lose their dad too.