Keep Wearing Wedding Band? [Thread #6]

[AndrewP]

ForGump - I had thought there might have been a health crisis in your family. I am glad to hear that it has passed.

Regarding your last bit - I'm not really sure what the "right" thing to do is. Our old friend CT1118 has done a lot of writing that I expect you have read as well. Fascinating stuff even if a bit philosophical even for me. There are a lot of contradictions out there on these forums and elsewhere. Inevitable because we are all individuals. For me I think that a lot of it is based on my interpretation of what my lawyer advised me 6 months go "Don't be an @ss". A simple 4 word set of instructions. I like to think that when I look in the mirror that I like the man that I see there and am proud of how I have acted. Yes, I'm very much one of the softer approach people even though I've not had the benefit of DB coaching. It's just who I am.

In Mathematics I was taught a methodology that perhaps might help you. You start in two directions. First you start from the answer you want and work backwards. Then you start with your original assumptions, those things that you KNOW and work forward. On a good day they meet in the middle. For me, the end point keeps shifting around multiple potential outcomes which if you've followed my thread you know that I am struggling with. The forward direction though has been largely consistent with a few mid-course adjustments.

It's certainly easier for me to do this without my W around and with no kids at home. I'm only accountable to myself.

Best of luck my friend. 2017 will be our year to get out of this mud.