Update of the Holidays.. This year was the warmest (feeling wise) we have had since BD. I shared my situation in regards of XH with a very religious SIL of mine. It brought tears to her eyes and she shared with me an encounter she had with him a week prior. They ran into each other up-town and he approached her to say hi and ask how she was doing. She thought it was odd of him but conversed with him anyway. Her thoughts: This is God' s work.. I think she is right.. Kids spent Christmas Eve with me. ( All 4 ) and EX-H picked them up on the 25th to bring them back on the 26th in the evening.
On the morning of the 25th was the opening of the gift, an afternoon as a family, followed by a supper before Ex-H arrive. I gave the money to each children with the whole story. I explained the why " from MOM and DAD " . Again, weird but positive was their response. I told them to make sure to thank him personally and individually. They did!
Some of you might disagree with what I am about to share.. Going back a little way.. When EX-H' s job was threaten, I made him an offer to sign a release form for his child support. He refused. I insisted in helping him. He refused. I did not want FRO to reinforce payments. I did not want him to lose his home or truck or anything. I did not want another Rock- bottom for him. I was afraid of it. I let it be and waited to see what was going to happen. Outcome: the deal from the government and EX-H' s generosity to us. My demands on our separation agreement are complete. Kids are financially secure and their schooling covered. Once again, I have offered complete release of EX-H' s child support form. He still refuses to sign. I told him ANYTIME he wants to stop, all he has to do is sign the form I have home. He said he would pay as long as they are going to school unless he loses his job. That is the only tie-breaker for him.
Now, it is my turn.. building for my future.. Overall, everything is above my expectation.. Great outcome. I never thought I could do it. Thank you Ex-H for your co-operation overall. You surprise me.. In bad at the beginning but for better and better as time goes by. We might not be a complete unit but we are good. We achieved our goal.
I think she is right.. Kids spent Christmas Eve with me. ( All 4 ) and EX-H picked them up on the 25th to bring them back on the 26th in the evening. 