That's me in the spotlight

[Altair]

I do tend to write little of H now because anything would be some serious mind-reading. I have such a tiny bit of info to go on, that it is meaningless, really. One thing that bothers me the most is that H said he and his therapist thought he should go NC for awhile. I've read about this online, I've read on it here- most often it is the LBS who does it for their own sake, or a counselor plans it out for the couple. I've not seen my case, where, there was no end put on it, no reasons, presumed blame on my part (as if I were some impediment to his progress to health which is doubtful, as we didn't see each other/hardly spoke anyway).
Which is exactly how our "separation" went. "We are separated" to me implies a mutual decision on both parties. I never agreed to anything, no terms were made, no nothing. Not only did I not 'agree' to anything I was completely left in the dark as to when/why/how it happened. Of course he will claim otherwise and tell you why he left.
This is the opposite of cake eating. The cake sat on the counter, untouched.
So back to what you said about filing AP. Many months ago, I told H that this wasn't acceptable, and the response was give me space or file or tell me to file and i will. So if (and there's no date on this) I decide to do this, i will choose door #3. I will make him fill out the paper work. (TBC)