That's me in the spotlight

[AndrewP]

Altair - Are you sure we're not brother and sister?

I'm struggling in similar but different ways. I'm trying to decide what to write on my own thread.

Unlike me, you don't tend to write much about your H - perhaps because you have so little visibility into what is going on in his "Planet of the Fairies". You've set a pretty high threshold for him to cross to get back with you. From the little I know about him I personally think it unlikely that he would be able to leap that high. From what I've read the person who could attempt to come back will not have fully dealt with their issues either and would require a lot of care and patience before they could be considered "whole" again.

I don't have any advice for you except on one point. Don't put your future into his hands. If you decide you want to file, you do it. Don't rely on him to do any heavy lifting. Why should he? Study up on what is required, do your preparation and then present him with a fait accompli. YOU control the situation and YOUR future. If he can't bear the shine, he needs to get out of the d@mned sky.

The other piece of advice was given to me by Jack_Three_Beans and I believe eric a long time ago. Don't put a particular date on it. You'll spend all your time watching the clock and building stress as the minutes and hours of your life tick by. IF you decide you are done, you will know it in your heart and in your soul and can move on with no regrets. Until then, you are not done.

It sounds like you're getting ready for a great 2017 and will shine brightly my friend.