I am trying so very very very hard to let go. He sent me an email yesterday (New Year's Eve - thanks!) to say the marriage was 100% over and all he wanted to ever was discuss where I would live with our son. Devastated. I have been doing the 180 from September to November and moved to LRT when he left me for the OW in November.
When I got the email yesterday, I just sat in bed and cried for ages, fell asleep, and then woke up thinking "if this isn't working, change it."
Am SUPER confused. On the one hand it's called Last Resort Technique - if it hasn't worked then does it mean the last resort is done, it's totally over? I've also been doing the After LRT, where I basically withdraw and don't interact and make him see what he's missing.
On the other hand in DR book Michele says do what works - and the going dark (After LRT) has not worked, he doesn't miss me and seems to have become more firm in his decision to leave. Does this mean I backtrack to the 180? Any advice would be so appreciated!
