I personally believe that going dark should mainly be used when there is an A going on. If there isn't, I would stop just short of that but you definitely need to detach, 180 and GAL. She wants a D but still wants you to drive around and take care of her? That's cake eating BS. Dont do it. If she doesn't want to be M to you then she needs to know what life is going to be like without you. Do you have the book? Get it and read it. Are you going to IC? You should be.
Me: 48 y/o W: 47 y/o Together: > 20 yrs BD: Dec '15, then S 2nd BD: Mar '16, then I filed for D April '16: started piecing
