she says my detached comments/validation sound patronising,
I think that may be true with many newcomer men, b/c if validation does not come naturally for him, it can sound phoney to the ears of a WW. Some men repeat the same one or two lines, and IMHO, it goes against what they intended. Understand that I am not against validation.
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said I was trying to dictate and control, and that she wasn't going to put up with me treating her like cr@p and telling her that she had to stop A before I would work on anything.
^^^^^^^That shows just how her thinking is so illogical.
IMHO, I don't think you need to tell her you have let her go. Just carry through with the actions.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
