Oh, another thing - she says my detached comments/validation sound patronising, and she recognises that I am detached, 'the way a Pyschopath detaches'

Any self help out there on validation that I can use. I think I need a particularly British version, sometimes American phraseology doesn't translate. We tend to be much more cynical across the pond, I fear.


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Me: 47 WW: 35
SS: 17 D: 5
T: 7 yrs Engaged: 2 yrs
OEA confirmed: August 17 2016 ongoing since April 2016.
OEA continues (with occasional breaks)
BD2 - W says will visit OM in Jan 18