Your goals should be very specific, achievable, action orientated and in the present tense. It helps if you can visualise them perhaps with a pin board. You have to have wriggle room, and of course you are right they are your actions. You may find like I do that starting with the end result and stepping out the actions may help. And you know to modify them as you go forward to?
So along the lines of
1. I am now including the following additional responsibilities at work, a, b and c, and I am happily engaged in trading for the qualification. I cheerfully request payrise/training/promotion and receive feedback which encourages me further. I am being paid an extra xyz, have extra benefits egg, etc which I have deserved.
(V uses priority management tools, and has three paper diaries, one for actions tomorrow, written in the evening, one for meetings etc for the long medium term, one for journaling and what actually happened today, all very low tech. I am still in business and have paid back 50k US of debt. Moved into my own offices, its a struggle and I have started again at 62))
2. I am energetically fit and active and as a result of consistently running/attendingthe gym/ doing home workouts x times a week for y minutes I have a resting pulse of w and have added s lbs of muscle. I am thrilled that by following the d healthy eating plan that I look and feel amazing. I love my body today.
I use monitoring tools daily and I track my progress which is thrilling and motivating for me.
(V uses a fit bit, joins different gym challenges, and is on a sugar free diet, for your info I have lost 55 lbs, and borough my resting BP down to 58 from 82, I also monitor sleep and steps, my long term sugars have dropped from 9.2 to 5.2. The key is to keep resetting, doing that which works).
3. I have fun meeting with my friends g times a month, I happily undertake interesting challenges with my family h times a month. I go hiking j times a month and I book my activities into my timetable and calendar at the start of each month to ensure that I have lovingly created the time to care for myself by reading, following mindfulnes etc.
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All I can tell you is it works for me. I also have joined the Superbetter website to recover from the complex PTSD, went to EE this year and trained as an abuse counsellor. I did use myfitnesspal when I first started as a motivator. I still do 12 steps.
Why do I tell you this? It's because without the goals and the help and support of my cheer teams I would probably be in a very bad place.
The more specific and active your goals are the better so
1. Actual (Present tense) 2. Active 3. Attitude (Positive even if the goal is move towards others move away from, even so make this positive) 4. Amplified (Encouraged with a cheer team and tools) 5. Accountable (Individual I) 6. Advised (Monitored know your numbers preferably independently) 7. Achievable (smaller steps) 8. Adaptable (pace changed up or down, sometimes a holding pattern is ok)
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Sounds complicated?
So no weasel words, could do, should, try, must. They create resistance to goals.
And have those goals where you look at them regularly, review monthly or every thread etc),
Oh yes and go brag about those achievements and celebrate them.
Hope this helps.
Over to you.,...........
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
