Hello... I am back ... had great time with the kids... wedding was great partying every night... I saw friends haven't seen for sure me time... I feel we rejeuvenated...

I missed h sometimes but then I thought if he was with me maybe I would be stressed thinking if he is doing ok... I just realized that every time we traveled I was not that relaxed trying to fix everything for everyone to be happy ... this time I did not have..:

Of course no msg since dec6 so I sent a msg today kids have fun we are back and that they have a vacation end of Jan if he would like to see them then wished him happy new year in advance...

I know going dark would never go with him ... in my whole marriage life I never seen him going back to any broken relation with any ... he never restart building ... I guess when this break his bad feeling takes over and can't mend it ...

Anyway that is his not mine ... as it says going dark is for me to detach which I think I am doing well... I am not expecting a reply on my msg but I think if will be more difficult to blame me fir cutting him off...

I had great time done friend came one envolved with a separated man which in the beginning I got some chils later on she tried to explain they Have amiable seperation and a year before they met ... I let it go without discussing cause I don't think I can do that and be supportive .. another one came with her h and were fighting or not talking most of that time... I felt I could have been in her place... so I guess I got a better deal...

Anyway came back home ... had so much fun and hope everyone has a good year ahead ...

Last edited by job; 12/31/16 05:06 AM. Reason: edited a word for poster
M 45 H 45
D1 12 D2 9
BD 04/14
Living two different state
Not officially separated