We need more info on your story if we are going to be able to offer any useful advice. We need the whole back story so lay it on it. For now, start reading the homework that Cadet gave you. Its invaluable. Do you have the book(s). If not, get them and read them.
Do NOT.....I repeat, do NOT move out of the house. Do NOT even move out of the MBR. If she's so miserable, then she can be the one to leave.
Me: 48 y/o W: 47 y/o Together: > 20 yrs BD: Dec '15, then S 2nd BD: Mar '16, then I filed for D April '16: started piecing
