I agree about the detaching part, I know it needs to be done. I'm just not sure how to do it. I also agree that I need to stand up for myself, I suppose I am just afraid of the backlash.
I suppose the whole going dark thing also eludes me a little. Do I tell her that I need to go NC, or do I just start limiting communication until she gets the hint?
Your W is F*ing another dude and you're worried about the backlash!?!?!?! Seriously!??!?! You are cowering at the feet of your disrespectful W. How the hell do you expect her to respect you if you won't respect yourself!? She will NEVER come back to a man she can't respect. Time to man up. Drop her like yesterdays news and start moving on with your life. THAT is how you fight for your M!
You don't owe her an explanation for anything so NO, you do NOT tell her you are going dark. JUST DO IT!
Me: 48 y/o W: 47 y/o Together: > 20 yrs BD: Dec '15, then S 2nd BD: Mar '16, then I filed for D April '16: started piecing
