She moved out...now the work begins...Part 4

[SBJ]

They are so much better at DB'ing than we are. They are able to shut us out of their lives with such ease...or at least it looks easy from where I sit.

This is an easy one. The fact it seems so much easier for them is that they are at least a year and half ahead of you. The BD for you was not BD for her. She started living it up at least a year and half ago. If you think about it, you should be able to spot some unusual details in retrospective.

I can't chart it all the way back to 18 months back, but starting in January certain things did change. She became a fitness fanatic. She became much more concerned about her looks...wrinkles and such...really about aging. She told me that I told her I loved her too much. She told me that I complimented her on her looks too much.

Those are the types of things that really stand out.

SBJ

The emotions are tough ... but if you did not have them it would probably be more alarming no? Understand they will come in cycles, and intensity but over time they will decrease the more you begin to grow/heal and deal with them.

I am starting to get more control of them, but I feel that it is good to have them. I just wish I could pick and choose when and where they would hit. Driving down the highway is no place to lose it. Taking care of a patient is no place to break. Seeing an elderly married couple sitting together in a restaurant holding hands is a bad place as well.

I had a friend ask me the other day why I wasn't mad or angry...I guess I am coming to grips with the fact that this is out of my control and that I did nothing to cause her crisis. I know that I can improve as a man, a husband, a father, a son, and a brother, but I am not the cause of her crisis.

Just saw a video of a woman describing how to let go and let God take control of the situation. I pray that I am able to do that and that she is able to open her heart to him.

May 2017 be the year we all succeed!!!