@Jug: Yes, I am seeing an IC. Her suggestion at this time is to "accept" what is happening, and detach. I agree that I have not accepted this nor really started to detach, and I am not really sure how to start that. I asked her for suggestions and her answer was to tell my W that I will be filing for legal separation and then following through with it. (currently we are just informally separated)
I agree about the detaching part, I know it needs to be done. I'm just not sure how to do it. I also agree that I need to stand up for myself, I suppose I am just afraid of the backlash.
I suppose the whole going dark thing also eludes me a little. Do I tell her that I need to go NC, or do I just start limiting communication until she gets the hint?
I have read Sandi's threads, and they are fascinating.
