SH, my friend, hello! I have been meaning to check in with you! One of my NY goals should be to spend less time on the computer, including here, but it's not currently a priority. Maybe next year. Ha!

I do have a few goals actually. I fluctuate between thinking NY resolutions are dumb (and refuse altogether) to trying to be unique and edgy with them. This year I will go against my own grain and work towards the three most common and most boring NY goals ... wait for it ....

1. Make more money.
Who doesn't like that? I do have some opportunities and ideas at work, and I have been putting them off, so I think it's time I go for it.

2. Get in better shape.
Who doesn't want to look better naked, right? I know I need to get more healthy tho and so I am rallying some ideas there too.

3. Be more domestic and enjoy more things.
I've got to leave some room for negotiating and generic goals right?
I would like to do more cooking, read some good books, watch some good movies, and try new things.

I think I have already succeeded in the GAL department. I have nurtured several friendships and have become good at making time for them, going out, and enjoy my alone time. Now it's time to mix it up!

Did anyone notice that H is not mentioned anywhere here? This is not intentional, I swear, I just noticed. It's just the way it is tho. Im okay with that. A couple years ago, my M is all I thought about and all I focused on, and I don't want to be that woman. Not at all. I want to be okay with whoever comes and goes from my life. I feel proud to say that I have reached that point.

So I read this cheesy article on FB yesterday about Rs. It states that there are six features that are toxic to a R or M. Each was described and had examples. Light bulb on! I have no idea the validity of this article, but I do know that I am guilty of doing most of them and some I still do. So that was an eye opener. It was everything from being passive aggressive and withholding affection to saying things that are hurtful as a way of asserting control. So yeah, I have a lot of work to do on my M too!

We live, we learn. I have a lot of changes to make too. We will all get there in time.

Blu

“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela