So, get out for you! You guys have been S for a few months. The best thing you can do is firmly put her on the back burner and get on with your own life as though she isn't coming back.
Sideline her in your life and start making plans just for you. Work on your own health and make 2017 the year that you slowly start to rebuild after your life was shattered.
Try one new thing each month that may become a regular activity for you. Join a support group for separated people, where you will meet others in similar circumstances.
Leave her to wallow in her A with grotty OM and move forward with your own life. Yes, you can stand for the M and choose not to file for D if you so wish. But please put any thought of 'waiting' to one side and don't worry if she 'sees' or doesn't see - focus on you!
So - let's see some plans for how you'll move forward in 2017 and get yourself to a stronger place - regardless of what she may be doing...
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
