New to the 180. Help?

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So to make a long story short, I had to move back to Arkansas. The situation was infinitely more complicated once I got to Florida, and it wasn't even just my situation--my parents ended up having problems too and I felt like I was the catalyst by moving back in with my son. No hard feelings, but ultimately I had to leave. Like I said, its way more complicated than I'd like to explain on here. I had nowhere else to go and no money to go there, so I came back to my empty house and moved back in.

WH still lives in Maryland. Showed up for Christmas for 3.5 days and went home. No word on the outcome of the investigation. Turns out his boss who defended him to no avail has also been having an affair on his wife, whom he has three children with. So no wonder he saw no issue with going to bat for my husband. I cant believe the nerve of some people.

Anyway, I'm back in Arkansas. Husband still hasnt filed for divorce and makes no mention of filing, but is an absolute cake eater. I was done when I left and told him that I wanted to split the accounts, I was done sharing money with him, everything. After he realized how poor he'd be without my income too, he changed his tune, was a little nicer and asked if they could remain the same for now. I dont know why I agreed, but I did.

The move to Florida and back to Arkansas cost about $1200. My dad originally paid for it because I didnt want WH to see it on the accounts and start questioning me. So I owe my dad that money now and WH is suggesting that I come up with it some other way instead of taking it out of the account. But sees no issue of flying to see his friend for NYE in Indiana. Complains we're broke and then spends money.

At this point, do I just insist on the accounts being divided and him paying child support and alimony like he should be doing even though he hasn't filed paperwork? I feel like he should be suffering the consequences of being broke and feel what its going to be like to survive on his income alone. Am I off base there?