Help - Setting Boundaries, WW in EA - Thread #2

[Surfer]

Woke_Up

Sorry chap. Been a tad busy. Just catching up....Sat with the last of the Christmas Port, Kids in bed all happy and sound asleep.

Drama Triangle. This normally ends up with persecution. In your example there was none. He may have gone V to get R however! I see your point. The DT is more for you. When W acts as a V, you R, she then pushes you to V and she becomes P. This is a pattern to watch for and exit the game ASAP.

MBR. If you are in, stay and explain why - its your F@+king Bed. No need to say anything, just don't move out again. If she needs space, she can go find it. Alternatively, say (boundary) I can't sleep in the same bed with someone that is in an affair. It's disrespectful to me and our R and our F. Sorry, I will not move back until this stops.

Boundaries. As above. These are to show you have a boundary and there are consequences for failure to observe it. This is tricky for me too. But see my post (not written yet).

I will post on the rest. Just catching up...

Surfer.