Postpartum, Antidepressants, and wife lost feeling

[Steady9]

MLH

-- I am not sure either... but one thought I had was, it may be related to how much money you have. In my situation, I have enough money to move my W some place. So I when I was working on detachment, I suggested she could move out and we would find a way to take care of it. And my mindset, or posture, was to say it non emotionally, like here you go, here is your new place and it looks comfortable, for example (It did not go this far for me)... This only works if money is not tight and thus not emotional....

Also, I think you know what is pursuing... more than we do... Just step back and think about what you are doing from another perspective.... like you are watching yourself --and your W is just another actor in the scene... does it look like your are pursuing...???

Emotion versus rational thinking --an amazing thing. Emotions should get moved out of your head as much as possible....

I am in a place where my W and I are reconciling... but I am only able to do it by finding times where I can move emotions out and then think with some rationale... I struggle with mind movies and stupid/mean things my W said to me... but the rational me knows I am unable to make good decisions today... so i keep working with my W and the R and building new memories.... and save my emotional memory for later or for certain times during the week...